The Psychology Behind Seduction
I have always wondered what kind of voodoo that men who are referred to as Yoruba Demons possess in order to charm women; as even with the gut-wrenching feeling reminding you that they are no good, it seems almost impossible to resist them.
I am aware that the name “Yoruba Demon” is a stereotype that seeks to group a certain tribe as promiscuous; however do keep in mind that I am not focused on the tribe but zooming in on how men who are known to break hearts constantly find women who are willing to risk it all for them.
So! I believe the big questions are – What and Who exactly is a Yoruba Demon.
A Yoruba demon is the ultimate Casanova. He is a smooth talker who knows exactly how to make a woman fall head over heels in love with him, allowing him to conquer the hearts of many women at the same time. They are very slick which means that they always find ways to absolve themselves of any responsibility.
However, contrary to popular opinion, a Yoruba demon could also be a woman and sometimes a leader who needs to charm a group into following his/her ideals; because remember the emblem of the Yoruba demon is the fact that people know that they might hurt them but still find them irresistible.
Because I am a drama queen permit me to refer to their victims as preys!
The seduction traits the Yoruba demon demonstrates have been in existent for many years and for some it comes naturally but for others, it’s a learned trait.
If you pick up the Robert Greene’s Book The Art Of Seduction aka my holy grail of seduction. The book opens up about the different types of seduction traits we have but I will be focusing on two that mirrors the seductive traits of the Yoruba Demon i.e The Charmers and Ideal Lovers
The charmers tend to focus on things that arouse our sexuality; you know the aspect that we are often attracted and addicted to – people mistake this for the sex itself but that’s not the way to go. Charmers work on things like – focused attention, boosted self- esteem, pleasurable wooing and a deep understanding of your core. However, do keep in mind that all of these could be real or an illusion; but once you get addicted, it becomes very difficult to tell them apart.
The charmers trick is to make their prey fascinated by them and they do this by capturing their attention while lowering their powers of reason. This trick can only be successful when they target the things that their preys have the least control over such as their self – esteem, ego, and vanity.
There are different steps that you can take to achieve this- but let’s go through a few.
1. MAKE YOUR TARGET THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
To be a Yoruba demon, you need to be willing to listen and learn about your prey. Let them talk about themselves; because as they open up, you learn about their strengths and most importantly their weaknesses. As you learn about their weaknesses, you must then begin to tailor your flatteries to their insecurities; appealing to their specific needs and desires. So your prey spills that they are ashamed of the way they dress sometimes; your flatteries must then focus on how nicely they dressed.
Be careful not to bombard your prey with your flatteries so it doesn’t seem patronizing, rather make them as casual as possible as it heightens the effect. This makes your prey feel good and also validates their sense of self-worth, in turn getting them addicted to you because they love how you make them feel
To crown this move; make public gestures – no matter how fake – to show your prey that you are unashamed and willing to do anything for them. Sometimes, strategically speak well or boast about them to friends and family when you know they can hear you but you act like you don’t know.
That been said, one mistake you must try not to make as an upcoming Yoruba demon is not to judge the book by its cover as they say that our personalities are often modeled by how we are treated, so if a person is defensive or argumentative in dealing with us, we tend to respond the same way.
The Yoruba demon knows not to mistake their prey’s exterior characteristics for reality, because the character they show may just be a reflection of the people they have met or a front disguising its opposite. This is why it’s imperative that you acquaint yourself with what lies underneath by allowing your preys become the center of attention.
2. BE A SOURCE OF PLEASURE.
Honestly! People rarely want to hear about your troubles. People love to be the center of attention, so listen to your prey’s complaints but more importantly proffer a solution for them and if you can’t! Distract them from the problem by giving them pleasure and NO! Pleasure doesn’t just mean sex! Think outside of the box.
Imagine! If your prey was stressed and troubled about something and they call you; knowing that you will proffer a solution for them or make them forget about their worries even if it’s for a short while, don’t you think, you will be on speed dial? It is an open secret that we all seek an escape from real life, therefore once you are a source of pleasure for someone; you have successfully become their escape!
3. LULL YOUR PREY INTO EASE AND COMFORT
The more relaxed and comfortable your prey is, the easier it is for you to make them do and act how you like. The Yoruba demon does this by mirroring their prey. We as humans are narcissistic in nature- we are drawn to people like us- who share similar tastes and values. As a Yoruba demon, you must act like you share the same values as them.
This could help answer the puzzle on why the Yoruba demon always seems so perfect, I guess it’s because they are basically a reflection of us.
4. USE THE DEMONIC POWER OF WORDS TO SOW CONFUSION
This is the trademark of the Yoruba demon. They have a way with words! As an upcoming Yoruba demon, you can make your prey listen to you by saying what they want to hear and fill their ears with what you know they find pleasant. Words have a huge effect on us; they drive the message in ways that sometimes actions can’t. This could be why you find women head over heels over a physically unattractive man; unaware that his secret weapons are his words.
I mean when you look at flattery which is seduction at its purest form, its essence isn’t to express truth or real feelings but to create an effect on the recipient.
In addition to the sweet words, the Yoruba demon knows that the promise of something wonderful has the power to hold you glued to them. To be a successful Yoruba demon you must learn to allow your preys daydream by not giving them too details as this ruins the suspense factor. Learn to talk about that wonderful thing that you know they desire to have like it’s already there; just waiting for them to step in!
So you can say “Imagine our home, 3 kids running around in the playroom; we sneak into the bedroom just because I can get enough of you….”
And just like that, you have successfully created a picture. Not a lot of details which allows them to daydream and add the other specifics. The more they fantasize, the more addicted they get. It’s just like inception.
The second form of seductive trait the Yoruba demon emulates is the IDEAL LOVERS
Just like the charmers, the ideal lovers learn to focus intensely on the other partner but do this because they are looking to find out what’s missing and what they are disappointed by.
Why! You might ask? Well, this is because once they know what you are missing and seeking for; they morph themselves to fit that ideal. Incredibly Sneaky!
As humans, we all have an idea of either what we would like to become or what the other person should be for us. For instance, we have someone who grew up in so much comfort but seeks rebellion or danger; their ideal will be to meet someone who is comfortable with being rebellious and in dangerous situations. They become attracted to the aura of the person because it fills that lack and needs that they desire.
However, being an ideal lover is not for everyone because it can be demanding, as it takes a lot of observation, patience and time.
It demands such because you are looking for subtle cues that people use to reveal themselves. As a Yoruba demon, you must learn to ignore your prey’s words and conscious behavior but focus on the tone of their voice, look in their eyes and gestures that seem to betray what their words won’t say.
There’s a story of a King who was known for having so many mistresses (This is not Solomon- calm down) This King had so many mistresses but known could ever satisfy his palette as he quickly disposed of them immediately he was done ravishing them.
Until one fateful day, he met a lady. The lady became his mistress but she was different. She quickly discovered that the king had a powerful inferiority complex – which many had not recognized and just like a Yoruba demon that she was, she used that piece of information to her advantage.
She could feel that the king desperately wanted to be great; as many people feel inwardly greater than they outwardly appear to the world – which means that inside of them, they feel like the best and greatest but in reality, it never adds up.
She made up her mind to become that lover that sparked the greatness in him. She said the things that increased his ego and using suspense as a tool, the king could not wait to see what she would say or do next. Before the King knew it, he was addicted to her and made her the Duchess of their town.
This lady saw past what many saw; the need to appeal to his better self and crushed ideals about himself and not focus on appealing to his physical side which is an amateur seduction technique.
I believe that we can safely say that the Ideal lover basically traps their prey by creating an illusion that they can only live their dream and desires through them.
Well! I hope were able to gather enough knowledge about the Yoruba demon and how they seduce and lure their preys. I do not believe any form of seduction is inherently evil; so one can learn how to seduce to catch the attention of the lady or man or group that they want in their lives.
So tell me in the comment section, if you know a Yoruba demon and what seduction traits have you caught them using on you.
If you are a Yoruba demon yourself- tell me your favorite trick. I would love to hear from you.
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